My God, do I love Halloween!!!
At this time of year, even the most shy and conservative among us feel perfectly comfortable bar-hoping in a corset and fishnets, or sporting a killer red dress they would never wear on a normal night.
And that’s a beautiful thing.
On Halloween, deciding “what we’re going to be” is often just an afterthought. Many of us simply dress in whatever makes us feel sexy (be it a hip-hugging black dress, a bustle, or a flowing skirt), and throw on a few accents at the end (like devil horns, cat ears or angel wings) to give the costume a label.
My question is: why can’t we women take this to heart the rest of the year? Yes, yes, I know we can’t possibly show up at work looking like Gaga or the Wicked Witch of the West; but we need to think–really think–about which clothes make us giddy with happiness and which don’t.
Don’t dress out of habit!
Instead, start with this simple thought: “What things do I love? What am I passionate about?” If you can answer those questions, you’re already half way to finding your style.
Do you love the allure of a different era like the Victorian period or the 1950s? The brightly-lit, high-contrast world of comic books? The sensual texture of feathers, fur, or leather?
You do? Then embrace it! Make that your signature!
You don’t need to dress in the full regalia of a Victorian lady to affect some of that mystique. Find some impressive victorian jewelry (like cameos, memento mori rings, or pendants) or accessories with hints of frilly old-fashioned lace, and combine that with your normal business attire.
Like comics or video games? Try choosing bright colors. Dye your hair an exaggerated shade (And I don’t mean an unnatural shade like blue or green, but a beautiful megawatt hue of red, blonde, or brunette) and try shaping it into controlled pin-up styles. Or simply ask yourself what your favorite character would wear. Hmm…how would a gal like Silk Spectre dress for a day job? How about Mary Jane? Harley Quinn? Read the rest of this entry
These restraints by Paul Seville are absolutely luxurious!
They may look like delicate fabric, but their gentle appearance belies the strength beneath. In fact, these cuffs are made of supple top-quality leather laser-cut to look like lace. Though they seem like a feminine ribbon-adorned accessory, these handcuffs are sturdy enough to bind your hands for some real kink. (Available now at Coco De Mer)
Just take a look at this gorgeous video of them being modeled: